Giving a gift is exciting but it can be challenging as well. You can ask them what they want, if you are lucky they will tell you, so you can go and buy it. But it will take all the romance out of it.
Sometimes, they will drop some right hints and you can pick the right object, wrap it in beautiful paper to present. But in general, it can be tough to find a gift that really gets your message across. Gift-giving is a love language and one that anyone can learn to speak. This post will help you develop your fluency.
Plan in advance
If you know you are going to give a gift to someone, start planning now. Try to know about that person’s taste, needs and interests. It will help you when you are shopping latter.
People do not always share their deepest desires, and only hint to what is meaningful to them; so, we must investigate deeper by asking great questions and listen carefully to their responses.
Has the person ever complimented your taste? It’s also possible that something on your own wish list would make a great for a person.
Make a list
Spend at-least two minutes to make a long list of things the person is interested in and thing that defines who they are. You are not going to give all of these things, but it will help you to pick combination of one or more items as a perfect gift. Your giftee will also appreciate how personal and thoughtful you were.
Don’t shop for yourself
As you are browsing for gifts in-store or online, you are inevitably going to be tempted to shop for gifts that you would love to receive. This instinct is completely understandable, but it is important for you to try to put yourself in the receiver’s shoes, rather than looking at things from your own perspective.
A thoughtful gift is a relevant gift; one that reflects the recipients’ passions, loves, hobbies, and life.
Think about the things they might need
Ask yourself what that person needs, and put together a care package. The key is to think broader about what that person’s needs, goals, and aspirations are.
There are tons of products out there to help people run their lives more efficiently. You could even ask other people you know what their pro tips are. Thinking on a more general level will help you get outside your regular, narrower view of that person.
Look to the past
Remembrance gifts can give them something to help cherish the memories that matter most. Maybe someone on your list recently graduated from college, and you could frame his diploma for display. Did you travel somewhere special together or have a memorable trip? You can share pictures/videos of that trip with them to make them happy.
Or a gift that offers condolences and keeps someone’s memory alive can provide healing to those left behind.
Give an experience
Some people don’t want anything. But that doesn’t mean they don’t want anything. They just don’t want stuff.
There’s no more meaningful way to honor someone than by treating them to an experience that reflects who they are: their personality, favorite hobby, a cherished milestone, fondest memory, bucket list wish, etc. And doing so can be equally as meaningful for the gift-giver, too. Because there’s a good chance that the recipient of an unforgettable outing/adventure won’t soon forget who gave them something so unique.
Do some stalking
If all else fails, stalk. Most people have a wish-list on Amazon, and they’ll be pretty surprised and delighted if you somehow found just the thing they wanted without even asking.
Look through their social platforms history for clue. You can see what types of things they’ve posted and commented on before.
Spend some time really thinking about what makes that special person in your life tick. What has meaning for one will not mean the same for someone else, so it varies from person to person.
Also think about other aspects of the gift besides the gift itself, such as when you give it, where you give it, how you give it, and so on.
Make it personal
Make it personal in a different way, include a little of yourself. Create a piece of art, write a song, knit a scarf. Combine these for an ultra-personalized gift.